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How to Stop People-Pleasing and Seeking Approval? The Disease to Please. Stop Being Nice Person

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About How to Stop People-Pleasing and Seeking Approval? The Disease to Please. Stop Being Nice Person

Introduction

What is People Pleasing?

Are You a People-Pleaser?

People-Pleasing Patterns

Symptoms of People Pleasing

How Nice are You?

Characteristics of a People-Pleaser

People-Pleasing Habits

People Pleaser’s Rules

Why is People Pleasing Unhealthy?

The Cost of People Pleasing

What’s Wrong with Being a People-Pleaser?

Is People-pleasing Toxic?

To Be or Not to Be Nice

Is Niceness Good?

Is It OK Not to Be a Nice Person?

Having Self-Worth

People Pleaser’s Sufferings

Why You Shouldn’t Be a People Pleaser?

The Darker Side of People Pleasing

Responsible for Other People's Actions

Negative Aspects of People-pleasing

Is People-Pleasing Dishonest?

People-Pleasers Are Passive

People-pleasing and Negative Feelings

Anxiety and People Pleasing

The Origins of People pleasing

People Pleasing and Childhood

What Causes People-Pleasing? Secure Attachment

Attaching Emotionally to Others

Still Pleasing Your Parents?

Over Responsibility (part 1)

Feeling Overly Responsible for Others' Feelings (part 2)

Avoiding Conflicts

Facing Conflict and Confrontation

Dealing with Anger and Sadness

Fear of Hurting Others

Speaking Up

Are You an Approval Seeker?

The Need for Approval

How Do We Get Hooked on Approval?

Putting Others First

Feeling Discomfort When Prioritizing Yourself

Handling Upset in Others

Is Putting Yourself First Selfish?

Being People-pleased

Being More Selfish

Hurting Someone’s Feelings

Responsibility for Other People’s Feelings

Feeling Guilty?

Empathy vs. People-pleasing

Being Less Nice

The Opposite of People Pleasing Behavior

The Alternative to People Pleasing

How to Build Authenticity?

Expression of Who You Are

Being Authentic in Communication

Discover Yourself

Who Are You? What Do You Want?

Being More Confident

Overcoming Fear of Rejection

Enduring Disapproval

Building Autonomy

Learning to Be Disliked

Being OK With Being Disliked

Stop Seeking Approval

Give Yourself Approval

Pleasing in Friendships

Being a People Pleaser at Work

Feeling Inferior to Your Superiors

Admitting Personal Limits

Not Being Shocked at Others’ Rudeness

Being Aware of Your Habits

Getting Rid of Toxic People-pleasing

Fixing the People Pleaser

Final thoughts

What You Will Learn?

  • You probably know somebody who is a people-pleaser - the person who always wants your opinion on their outfit, asks for your input on where to go out Friday night, and will do anything you ask them to do. You see them start to struggle, but they never want to let you down and continually find themselves in situations they don't like.
  • People-pleasers may:.
  • Apologize for things that need no apology.
  • Chronically second-guess themselves in the decision-making process.
  • Go along with plans they disagree with.
  • Refuse to hold their ground when the other person is persuasively argumentative.
  • Make unnecessary concessions when the other is pushy.
  • Pretend to agree even when they don’t.
  • People-pleasers squander energy by fretting about what other people are thinking. They often don’t know what they want or like because they have always been focused on the other person. They fear confrontation and would rather bite their tongue than say anything to rock the boat, ultimately building a life of resentment and unexpressed emotions..
  • We are taught that being nice and thinking about other people’s feelings are important. It is important, and wanting to please people is a lovely characteristic to have, but when you start to bend over backwards to such an extent that it impacts your own emotions, then it becomes a harmful problem..
  • People pleasers:.
  • are addicted to approval.
  • put the needs of others before their own.
  • are nice to everyone.
  • have a difficult time standing up for themselves.
  • never say how they feel.
  • experience chronic guilt and fear of hurting others.
  • prefer to conform with others, even if they internally disagree.
  • As a people pleaser, you have a compulsive need to be liked by everyone. You feel icky when people don't like you, and you'll go to any length to get someone to praise or approve of you. You are scared of offending people, worry if they like you, and not completely comfortable with yourself. You can’t say no to others, voice out your opinions and emotions, and assert what you want. You're leading a life of servitude and emotional suffering..
  • If you have been struggling with the disease to please syndrome, this is the class for you. It will give you the tools and necessary information that can help you overcome your addiction to approval. When you understand why you behave the way you do, you are in a better position to know how to free yourself of people-pleasing. You will know the mindsets you need to catch in yourself and change. You can be a nice person without being a people pleaser..
  • The course includes:.
  • Why it’s important to overcome people pleasing?.
  • What being a people-pleaser is really costing you?.
  • What’s wrong with being a nice person?.
  • The origins of people-pleasing behavior.
  • How to stop pleasing your parents.
  • Overcoming fear of confrontation.
  • Overcoming fear of hurting other people.
  • How do we get hooked on approval?.
  • How to prioritize yourself?.
  • Why is authenticity important?.
  • How to be yourself during communication?.
  • Overcoming fear of rejection.
  • How to stop seeking approval?.
  • Getting rid of toxic people-pleasing.
  • Identifying what you want and expressing it.